Tuesday Tears.

I cry every Tuesday. The Biggest Loser is on Tuesday and I cry while watching the show. Sometimes I cry during the previews, sometimes the tears come when I'm trying to recap what happened to someone else. I understand these tears. I'm watching people do the same thing I'm trying to do and I can see my journey in theirs.

I understand these Tuesday tears. I expect and embrace them.

What I haven't expected were the tears that threaten unexpectedly on Thursday or Sunday and every other day of the week. The tears well-up during a song, while driving, at the end of a good workout. Sometimes putting on a pair of jeans or looking in the mirror can cause them. A new pledge or an email from a friend may be the trigger.

Is my body getting so used to sweating that when I'm not, it tries to eliminate water from my eyes? Am I drinking too much water? Has the change in diet/exercise thrown me into a constant state of PMS? Every time the tears threaten I half laugh them off, half wonder what is happening to me.

I've been wondering this for almost six weeks now and this is what I have come to think.

When you are disappointed enough you begin to lose belief in yourself, to hate yourself. It was easier to deal with disappointment when I pretended it didn't matter that much and to pretend it doesn't matter, to avoid the hurt of failure and loss I built a wall. A big brick-cemented-rebar-jackhammers can't penetrate-petrified-wall that built over time.

My wall was layers thick. It had been building for years, and it's foundation was laid long before that. By the time I began this journey it was thick enough to block my optimism, my hope, my vision of the future. My wall blocked out my ability to see the possibilities within me. No love could pass through the wall and I was left alone. The wall didn't protect the hurt instead the wall made it so I felt as if I was without any help to heal.

The tears are breaking through my wall. I began to chip away at the wall over a year ago and I think maybe my tears come now because the wall is becoming thin enough that I can feel the tears threatening. There are holes, however small, that are letting the tears escape out.

I am trying to come to terms with these holes. I know that each goal I reach rips out a stick of rebar, each person I embrace as a friend helps to knock out a brick and as the wall comes down I come out, stronger but openly vaulnerable. That is the part I am coming to terms with. Vaulnerability.

In college I dreamt of running a marathon and then blamed my inactivity to bad knees. I finished a 5k and brought that dream back to mind. I used to dream of writing a book and now think I might actually have something to say. And maybe the one I have a hardest time admitting...I used to be a hopeless romantic and maybe, just maybe, a bit of that is coming back too.

Coming back open to the possibilities, brick by demolished brick.